Chapter 1 – The Person to Person Phenomenon
1 You Are Here For A Reason
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2 The Daily Diplomat
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3 Needs Like Weeds
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4 Like a Sponge
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(13) In this video you will see how a thief steals a woman’s purse in a Toronto restaurant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cavoDYUgtmY
5 Flight Through the Unconscious
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6 The Butterfly Effect
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7 Order Out of Chaos
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Chapter 2 – Power of Your Environment
1 Since You Were Born
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2 Objects in the Mirror
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3 Power of the Situation
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4 Your Feelings Colour Your World
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5 The Psychology of Homes
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6 Social Walls
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(39) In this video, a little boy educates his mother on mindset: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wa-2fO5pMNM
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Chapter 3 – Self in the World
1 Not Just Diplomats, But Also Actors
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2 The Chameleon Self
3 In Their View
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4 When You and You Just Don’t Agree
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(45) In this music video, Toni Braxton sings about cognitive dissonance that happens when romantic partners make excuses for cheating: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnzHIEOgr8Q
5 Cup Fulfilled
(48) http://www.3dfit.ca
In this video I interview owner of 3D Fitness: https://youtu.be/5ji9HkSd7MI
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6 Cup Overfloweth
Chapter 4 – The Friends and Family Deal
1 Team Fam
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2 Parental Entanglement
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3 The Commercial Family
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4 Money Doesn’t Grow on Trees
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5 The Currency of Social Capital
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6 Bad Seeds
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Chapter 5 – Affairs of the Heart
1 Back to the Basics
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(84) https://wheatley.byu.edu/porn-gap-differences-mens-womens-pornography
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2 Cords to Your Past
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3 Likelihood of Liking
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-breeds-enjoyment
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4 Something More
(94) https://www.integrativemysticism.com
(95) In this clip from the classic Wester movie “Shane”, we see an example of when some special people enter our lives for some divine reason: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtoCw2iOTSc&t=1s
5 Skeletons in the Closet
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6 Pop-Culture the Love Guru
(102) In this music video, an R&B artist “D’Angelo” shows a more soulful representation of romance in music, as compared to the much less classy examples of today: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SxVNOnPyvIU
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(106) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ludacris#Personal_life
Chapter 6 – Cultured
1 Dr. Humor
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-laughing-matter
(110) Carroll, N. (2014). Humour: A Very Short Introduction. (p. 84). Oxford. Oxford University Press.
2 City Swag
(111) https://www.instagram.com/tv/BzBVazyh1k1/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link
3 Laugh Together, Cry Together
4 You’re So Funny
(112) https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/articles/200011/the-science-laughter
(113) https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-halo-effect-2795906
5 Experts Agree You Should Keep Reading this Book
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6 The Devil Made Me Do It
(117) In this video you will see the footage from the famous “Shock Experiment” by Milgram: https://youtu.be/rdrKCilEhC0
In this video they explain the psychology of influence: https://youtu.be/UGxGDdQnC1Y
Chapter 7 – The Box
1 Elephant in the Room
(118) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hope-relationships/201601/9-things
-dependent-people-do
(119) In this clip from a famous TV show “Curb Your Enthusiasm”, the theory of “Groupthink” is clearly displayed at the 1 minute mark: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfZEDMsOrCk&t=4s
(120) Bielo, J. S. (2015). Anthropology of religion: The Basics. (p. 109). Routledge.
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2 Birds of a Feather
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3 One for All, All for One
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4 Friction
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5 Is The World Falling?
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6 Off The Handle
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Chapter 8 – Like a Pro
1 Juggling Act
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2 Hustling Birds and Bees
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3 The Leadership Ship
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(153) Belfort, J. (2007). The wolf of wall street. New York, NY: Bantam Books.
4 Leading Ways
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5 Just Right
6 Balancing Alpha
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Chapter 9 – Under the Influence
1 What’s With the Attitude?
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(165) https://www.bl.uk/world-war-one/themes/propaganda
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2 Bypassing the Conscious
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3 Why Would You Do That?
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4 Spell on You
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5 Words Mean Things
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6 S(p)elling
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Chapter 10 – As Within So Without
1 Winners Gonna Win
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(184) http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/3335275.stm
2 Reward System
3 The Voice of Energy
(187) https://www.amazon.ca/Codex-Seraphinianus-Luigi-Serafini/dp/0847842134
4 Motivational Noise
5 The Cosmic Toolbelt
(189) Arroyo, S. (2018). Astrology, psychology & the four elements: An energy approach to astrology and its use in the counseling arts. (Ch. 1). Sebastopol, CA: CRCS Publications.
6 Love Thyself So You Can Love Others
(190) https://opentextbc.ca/socialpsychology/chapter/the-feeling-self-self-esteem/